{"id":642,"date":"2024-09-01T22:21:06","date_gmt":"2024-09-01T22:21:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/?p=642"},"modified":"2024-09-01T22:21:06","modified_gmt":"2024-09-01T22:21:06","slug":"2-my-fiancee-wants-to-put-photos-of-her-late-husband-all-over-our-wedding-but-i-refuse-to-accept-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/?p=642","title":{"rendered":"2 \/ My Fianc\u00e9e Wants to Put Photos of Her Late Husband All Over Our Wedding, but I Refuse to Accept It"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

There are many inconspicuous ways of having him with her. You are 100% right about postponing your wedding and possibly canceling it too. My thoughts are she isn\u2019t ready to move on yet. Why, I don\u2019t know, she needs some counseling to find out or some deep soul-searching.\u201d\u201cShe\u2019s going overboard, and the symbolism is not good. She has to have \u2019a place\u2019 for him, that\u2019s understandable. But there are two stars at the wedding, not three. This is not about jealousy. It is not about minimizing permanent grief. It\u2019s about if your wife has the capacity to marry you.\u201d\u201cThe symbolism makes it seem like a renewal of vows with<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

OP as a stand-in.\u201d\u201cThe wedding is just the start of a lifetime grieving process. In the post-married home, she will install a shrine to the deceased. Kids? You can bet a son will get hung with the name. The deceased birthday and anniversary will be celebrated. Respectfully, it doesn\u2019t look like this marriage is going to work. Recommend a therapist if she\u2019s willing to go. If not, think really hard about bailing out.\u201d\u201cAt first, I was like \u2019Oh, yeah, a photo on a chair or on a table makes sense,\u2019 but the photos were\u2026 too far? She\u2019s clearly not far enough in her grief journey\u2026\u201d\u201cShe is not ready to marry anyone.\u201d\u201cShe\u2019s still grieving a dead husband this outwardly, she is not ready. If it were a \u2019Hey, do you think we could do a memorial board with photos of family that can\u2019t make it because they\u2019re not here? And would it be okay to put the dead husband\u2019s photo up to respect his memory too?\u2019 That\u2019d be different, as it\u2019s not just the dead husband being remembered. But to be this way? She needs grief counseling.\u201d\u201cA side table to honor the dead is a way to incorporate them into the ceremony without them being in every picture. She is fighting the wrong battle. It\u2019s not that she\u2019s gonna go back to him, but he doesn\u2019t need to be in every wedding photo being taken.\u201d\u201cThis is weird. We had a memorial table at the entrance of our reception for photos of deceased loved ones. I don\u2019t think it would be odd or disrespectful to have a memorial table and include her dead partner there. But wanting his photo to be held by a bridesmaid, photographed in your couple\u2019s photos, and placed at the head table is a lot.\u201dUltimately, this situation highlights the intricate dynamics of blending past and present in a new relationship. The groom-to-be faces the difficult decision of whether to compromise or stand firm in his beliefs, knowing that his choice could have lasting effects on their future together. As they approach their wedding day, the couple must confront the emotional weight of their differing perspectives, seeking a resolution that honors both their shared love and individual needs.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

There are many inconspicuous ways of having him with her. You are 100% right about postponing your wedding and possibly canceling it too. My thoughts are she isn\u2019t ready to… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-642","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"views":793,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/642","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=642"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/642\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":643,"href":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/642\/revisions\/643"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=642"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=642"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/newsc72.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=642"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}