New parents often feel nervous and overwhelmed in the first few months with a newborn. While some instincts come naturally, and some parents are more informed, things can get complicated when others start offering unsolicited advice. One mom turned to Reddit for help after her husband accused her of spoiling their 2-month-old. Check out her story. A new mom sought help on Reddit about a disagreement she had with her husband.“We have a 2-month-old son who has been fairly colicky. He cries a lot, but I know it’s because he is uncomfortable and his little tummy hurts. When my son cries, I naturally react. I often pick him up to be held upright because that seems to be the most comfortable position for him. And frankly, I hate seeing him cry. In the evenings, I love to sit in the rocking chair with my son and get those baby cuddles, which my husband thinks is why he cries, because I hold him too much.”

“My husband thinks that he needs to ‘cry it out’ to get tired enough to go to sleep. At least that’s what his mother tells him, ‘You never really cried, but when you did, I just let you cry it out.’ My husband uses the excuse of ‘crying won’t hurt him’ but I just don’t agree. But I don’t know how to explain at the moment why I don’t agree. I can’t find my words… I try to say ‘That’s an old way of thinking,’ ‘You can’t hold a baby too much,’ and ‘Babies aren’t manipulative and can’t be spoiled,’ he just doesn’t agree. How can I explain to my husband that his boomer parents are wrong in their ‘cry it out’ advice that he wants to follow? And how do I explain that you can’t spoil a baby??” Some people shared similar experiences or offered their thoughts to the woman.“