There are many inconspicuous ways of having him with her. You are 100% right about postponing your wedding and possibly canceling it too. My thoughts are she isn’t ready to move on yet. Why, I don’t know, she needs some counseling to find out or some deep soul-searching.”“She’s going overboard, and the symbolism is not good. She has to have ’a place’ for him, that’s understandable. But there are two stars at the wedding, not three. This is not about jealousy. It is not about minimizing permanent grief. It’s about if your wife has the capacity to marry you.”“The symbolism makes it seem like a renewal of vows with

OP as a stand-in.”“The wedding is just the start of a lifetime grieving process. In the post-married home, she will install a shrine to the deceased. Kids? You can bet a son will get hung with the name. The deceased birthday and anniversary will be celebrated. Respectfully, it doesn’t look like this marriage is going to work. Recommend a therapist if she’s willing to go. If not, think really hard about bailing out.”“At first, I was like ’Oh, yeah, a photo on a chair or on a table makes sense,’ but the photos were… too far? She’s clearly not far enough in her grief journey…”“She is not ready to marry anyone.”“She’s still grieving a dead husband this outwardly, she is not ready. If it were a ’Hey, do you think we could do a memorial board with photos of family that can’t make it because they’re not here? And would it be okay to put the dead husband’s photo up to respect his memory too?’ That’d be different, as it’s not just the dead husband being remembered. But to be this way? She needs grief counseling.”“A side table to honor the dead is a way to incorporate them into the ceremony without them being in every picture. She is fighting the wrong battle. It’s not that she’s gonna go back to him, but he doesn’t need to be in every wedding photo being taken.”“This is weird. We had a memorial table at the entrance of our reception for photos of deceased loved ones. I don’t think it would be odd or disrespectful to have a memorial table and include her dead partner there. But wanting his photo to be held by a bridesmaid, photographed in your couple’s photos, and placed at the head table is a lot.”Ultimately, this situation highlights the intricate dynamics of blending past and present in a new relationship. The groom-to-be faces the difficult decision of whether to compromise or stand firm in his beliefs, knowing that his choice could have lasting effects on their future together. As they approach their wedding day, the couple must confront the emotional weight of their differing perspectives, seeking a resolution that honors both their shared love and individual needs.